Boundaries can be very useful. Example: when my wife and I moved into our new place, the fence in our backyard provided our Dog Linus with a great play area that didn't require constant supervision or the use of a leash. This gave me peace of mind, a break from having to take long walks, and the ability to just sit out and enjoy a book while he could entertain himself by chasing the birds and squirrels.
Several years ago, my brother had a vision to create a clothing company based on feeling good: both in terms of the fabric (more breathable than cotton) and an attitude (focus on the good in life). While the business itself never took off due some business management trip ups, people LOVED the logo. In the last 10 years, I think only my wife has ever noticed and commented on the shirts I've worn. Yet feel good shirts? Strangers in planes, clerks at best buy, an inventory person at Barnes and Noble, people on the street—all types of people have at least found it interesting or cool enough to warrant a mention.
GTD and Renegotiating Agreements: As you may or may not have noticed, there was no previously promised post on my 30 day journey through each one of The Four Agreements. Honestly, I was inspired to write something else. Have I failed my goal just 4 days in? Not at all! It was an intentional act to learn one of the key lessons of being impeccable with ones words; a lesson that I wish to share now.
The meme potential is particularly pervasive in our success-driven society. A bright young kid has "a lot of potential"; a kid that struggles isn't "living up to his potential"; a business venture is "potentially lucrative." We live in potentials like we live in hopes and dreams, praying to turn them into tomorrow's actuals and realizations.
Words by Omission: I'm learning that being impeccable with one's words has many facets. First there is clearly the spoken word; what is audibly said to those around you. Then there is the internal part; that which is thought in one's head, particularly about oneself but also about others. Unspoken words can spread just as much poison as they can fester in one's psyche, creating myths and illusions far worse that those spoken.
One of the ways I've used my words against myself is by my intentional and unintentional focus on 'worry words'; the thoughts that creep in to my psyche and replicate themselves until there is no space for words of truth and empowerment. Just this day I was having an amazing morning: very grounded, at peace, and really kicking butt. Then I had a panic moment when I noticed that something was due tomorrow instead of in a week. Immediately my brain went into a fit of haggling, worry, and etc. I immediately felt my energy drain out of my body and my head is a bit foggy.
It might be helpful, before I start detailing my experience, to briefly go over what it means to Be Impeccable With Your Word. The author's synopsis of this agreement (found on the front jacket of the book and the website) is as follows:
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love
This is the start on what I plan on being a 4th month series on my experience with the 4 agreements by Miguel Ruiz. At this time I'm planning on a post a day in order to share my experience and (hopefully) offer some insights and inspiration along the journey. I believe by committing to this publicly I can better ensure that I stay on the wagon and complete this journey. My goal has many facets: 1) I want to prove I still have the discipline that I remember having as a varsity athlete. 2) I want to strengthen my self-image. 3) I want to have a better relationship with everyone, including and most especially my wife Emily.
Immediate reactions, on-the-scene ireporting, the ability for anyone to become their own outlet of information: the social media revolution (currently led by Twitter and Facebook) has undoubtedly changed the way we find, consume, and even create the information around us. And in an era of where time is our most scarce resource; information is ubiquitously around us; texting is replacing dialing; aggregation is the only way to make sense of it all... the battle of quantity versus quality continues on. And it's leaving me, and others, hungry for more.
The next American Idol, the next NY Times bestselling author, the next Miss America: these positions do not require job postinga on Monster.com. The line of people desperately vying for these limited seats is almost endless. They pursue these dreams, these pinnacles of excellence in a given field, with an unrelenting passion.
Passion is good. It inspires. It Fuels. It is the light at the end of the tunnel that can get us through the tough times and put it all on the line for the hope, the shot, the dream of making it big.