My wife recently made the best ice cream known to man: bay leaf ice cream. Yes, I originally made that same puzzled face and cringed of the idea of adding herbs to my dessert. Honestly, I was shocked at how good it was, so we clearly had to tell the world of our new found discovery.
Are you as split focused as I am? Here's a pattern I've noticed: When I'm in the shower, I'm thinking about breakfast. When I'm eating breakfast, I'm thinking about my work day. When I'm at work, I'm thinking about everything else. Always there physically, never fully there mentally. This is a very tiring cycle because the amount of potential distractions in life are endless (Cable alone can give us 300+ channels worth 24 hours a day).
In the ideal scenario, one is 100% engaged in a single activity to the exclusion of all else. I love this state of being, when I can achieve it. I can be efficient as well as happy because there is no longer a major drain on both my body and my psyche. It's the flow state, the zone, or (in Happy Gilmore's lingo) your happy place.
Based on a true relationship story.
Honey, you should check out this great book I just read.
Honey, you should watch out this funny video on the internet.
Honey, you should try this new item on the dinner menu. It's fabulous!
Question: Are these "shoulds" commands or suggestions?
Answer: It depends on your dictionary.
It's a funny story, but it carries an important message for every relationship.
We all love an expert. When I broke my foot, was I going to go to someone who 'kinda' knew how to repair feet? When I was picking a school, did I want a school that 'sortof' focused on engineering? When I wanted to solve the scientific problem of how carbon nanotubes stuck together by quantum electrodyamic forces caused by differences in their optical properties, did I search and scour the globe for the first wikipedia article author that 'kinda' new what a van der Waals force was?
No. No. And 100% without a doubt NO!
So you just wrote 'The Best Blog Post EVER.' You have a catchy tagline, some witty prose, and an awesome image (like the one above). You also have some social tools setup because (clearly) everyone is going to want to share your article as well. All goes well until... you decide to let facebook pick the image for you.
It sounds so simple: be impeccable with your word, don't take things personally, don't make assumptions, and always do your best. But we've been programmed by our parents, society, schools, media, and ourselves to do anything but! Still, there is no need to judge and beat ourselves up over it. But with awareness comes the choice. Do we continue to let these agreements stay in our psyche and harm us like a malicious computer virus? Or do we take a stand and make new agreements.
My Situation: dozens of hobbies, a shelf full of unread books, several great clients, a wonderful family, life responsibilities, chores, a need for 8 hours of sleep a night, etc. I'd love to do it all and yet still have time to enjoy a relaxed evening every night, having achieved every todo list item I can conceive.
It never happens. Ever!
I love an articulate contrarian, a person that can totally change the perspective of a conversation, making everyone (within listening distance) tilt their heads and say 'hmmm, you know I never thought of it like that.' Well it's been almost 3 weeks and I'm still thinking about the 'Social Media is 32,000 Years Old' post by Paul Flanigan. Yes, in an age with no electricity, no email, no mail, no telephones, and no buildings, the foundations of social media can be found painted upon the walls of the cave. The point is this, social media is not just technology. Social media is a combination of human interaction through media and the technologies which make it easier, faster, better to create, transmit, store, and share said interactions.
It's no secret that content farms are overtly bloating the internet with vapid information. The cause? In my opinion, it's a combination of the high stakes game of getting onto page 1 of google coupled with essentially NO barrier to entry to create volumes of 'content' by outsourcing to penny-per-hour freelance writers in southeast Asia, India, and China. The truly creative content spammers take it one step further, writing perl scripts that harvest and shape-shift other people's content, cutting and smashing together disparate ideas and phrases, creating frankenstein sentences that any native speaker could identify as gibberish.