Rick Manelius

a little bit about a lot of things...
Rick and Ryan in a swimming pool

Momentum

Although my family didn’t have a lot of money, we always splurged on those $200 above ground swimming pools that you could pop up in a couple of hours. And we got every dollars worth of entertainment out of those pools: WWF-style wrestling matches, full speed swan dives from the grass, and the occasional cannon ball initiated from atop the flimsy ladder that came with the set. During a hot NY summer, it was heaven.

And then there was the momentum game…

A big kitchen table ready for a brainstorming session.

Big Table Brainstorming

I love using index cards to capture goals/ideas. But when it comes to fleshing them out into full fledged plans, a single 3x5 or sheet of paper can feel a bit cramped. I’ve been discovering that I am most creative when I have room to expand, to lay out multiple sheets of paper, to color, to draw out shapes, to connect lines between major themes, to shuffle, to reorganize, etc. This is where I experience my ‘ah-ha’ moments. This is how I break through resistance. This is when I crystalize these thoughts onto paper.

Have you experienced this level of flow lately?

Rick Manelius doing a wall sit next to a chair

Bucket List Item Complete: 10 Minute Wall Sit

It’s official. After making my bucket list several months ago, I’ve crossed off my 3rd item: a 10 minute wall sit. Previously, I had only crossed the 5 minute mark about 3-5 times with my previous best being 7:50. Today I threw in an extra 5 seconds to go 10:05 so I could be absolutely certain that I didn’t stop short of my goal. Either way, I was exhausted yet exhilarated. No longer do I have to wonder if I could do it. I can, and I did!

A man holding a newspaper over his head - flickr - Silentmind8

Don't Confuse the Two

During a torrential downpour in NYC, people were grabbing copies of the NY metro newspaper to use as makeshift umbrellas. Clearly, the number of papers handed out does not equal the number of readers.

A decade ago, AOL used to send out an excessive quantity of CDs and 3.5 inch floppy disks in order to entice people to sign up for a free month of internet service. Most of these CDs/floppies were thrown out. But some individuals would collect them to use in their artwork or use them in other creative ways. Clearly, the number of free offers does not equal the number of people who will accept said offer.

MIT PDT 2003 pledge class party

Stop Waiting for the Party

800+ peopled stopped by in a single night. I know, because we had the signatures on our guest list to prove it. Yes, MIT was full of nerds and you wouldn’t consider it a party school. But Boston is a college town and that meant a lot of people were looking to have some fun on a friday night. We just happened to be one of many venues on that particular night.

Safe dial - Leo Reynolds - Flickr

What's Your Failure Threshold?

If you’re big into self help and personal development, you’ve probably heard the story of Thomas Edison and his famous 1,000-10,000 failed experiments on the way to inventing the light bulb. Clearly, it takes guts and determination to stay relentless in the pursuit of ones vision.

You’ve probably also heard the following adage: the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. The point usually being made is that you’ve reached a dead end and must change course. This also takes guts because one may need to abandon the vision altogether.

Santa Mug Shot - kevindooley - flickr

Things I Once Believed

“Who’s your daddy?” While often used as a schoolyard taunt, it’s actually legitimate question of illegitimacy. After all, a university study concluded that up to 1 in 25 fathers are unknowingly raising another man’s child.

I love my mom, but my world flipped upside down when I learned my dad was one of those 4%. It was even more bizarre because I was good friends with my half-sister and half-brother and saw my biological dad on a regular basis. I was too blind, too naive, and too trusting to ever think anything different.

Image of a wrecked home - joeldinda - flickr

Abdicate

Definitions:

  • [with obj.] fail to fulfill or undertake (a responsibility or duty).
  • without obj. to renounce or relinquish a throne, right, power, claim, responsibility, or the like, especially in a formal manner.
  • to cast off

Life can be scary. And as a result of fear, we sometimes cling to those who offer some (real or imaginary) hope of solving our problems. This is not to say that we cannot work with or depend on others. That can be a very healthy way to achieve a goal. But it’s not healthy to knowingly place ALL the responsibility of the big decisions onto others.

Snowflake photo by CaptPiper

The Copycat Conundrum

Each snowflake is structurally unique. And yet, they all have 6 sides and the same exact name—snowflake!

In high school, we’re told that copying is bad, illegal, and YOU’LL FAIL! Then we create a standardized test and tell 30,000+ students across the state to write a 4 paragraph essay on the exact same topic. Statistically speaking, I’m shocked there are no exact duplicates.

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