A Living Letter to My Mother & Others

A young Joddy Rajter

Life doesn’t always give us the chance to say goodbye before someone dies. This is why I’ve grown to respect and appreciate my in-law’s practice of saying “I love you” each and every time we meet. It both reinforces the message and ensures that we never part ways questioning this vital fact. It is also why I love the Ho'oponopono prayer, which is a repetition of the intentions “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.” It’s a simple yet profound way to heal even the most broken of relationships.

The Website RFP & The Impossible-to-Estimate GI Joe Line Item

Two people collaborating in front of their laptops.

My bold claims: 1. Every feature within a website RFP can be delivered with a low, medium, and high level of effort (LOE) solution. 2. While the difference between low and high can be measured in single or double digit percentage (e.g., 1-99%), the difference can sometimes span several orders of magnitude (10X to 10,000X). 3. One or two of these massive discrepancies can kill the budget and, as a result, the entire project. 4. We can learn a lot by reviewing GI Joe, the line item scenario.

Shame as a Shield; Pity as a Weapon

Neon sign: "Hurt Me" by Adam Birkett on Unsplash

Imagine a situation as devastating as killing someone that you love. I tend to live a very sheltered life. I also refrain from watching horror movies. Such thoughts like this are not common in my everyday experience. I found myself speechless amidst strangers as a young man told me his story. And it wasn’t just the story that made me tear up. It was the complete lack of emotion in his being as he rattled off the sequence of events as if he was reading a weather report. It was just three months ago that he got his parents (straight-laced, white-collar professionals) hooked on heroin.

Through Dan’s Eyes

Dan staring out into the ocean at Acadia national park.

Earlier in the year, my brother and sister-in-law made the bold but necessary decision to leave the hustle and bustle of Boston and seek a lifestyle that better matched their evolved values. This resulted in them putting in an offer on a house in Deer Isle, a place that I never heard of in an area of Maine that I had never visited. Truth be told I was excited for them but skeptical that it would be a place that I could call home.

My 3 Words for 2018

“Put your oxygen mask on first before helping others.” This phrase is overused both in airplanes safety videos and in self-help books. It’s a simple yet important reminder that we are of no use to others if we’re unable to help ourselves. Unfortunately, despite understanding and agreeing with this philosophy, 2017 was the year that many of my closest family members (myself included) almost drown trying to save others.