3 Years Stuck in a Story
The past three years have been a painful yet critical chapter in my life. I will never forget it, but this story rented far too much space in my head. It is time to move on. I am ready.
February 5th, 2017. Emily, Evelyn, and I were driving home on one of our typical morning rides because our daughter was always awake and rearing to go before the sun. I received a phone call from my brother. Odd. He rarely initiates a call. Emily and I both shared an exchange of confusion before I picked up.
What happens next was covered in detail here and here. The summary is this suicide attempt kicked off a hellacious 18-month struggle to try and hold the craziness of life at bay. It was only in surrendering, setting health boundaries, and reprioritizing that the opportunity to heal emerged. We made radical changes. I took a sabbatical before changing career paths. We no longer tried to force my mom into recovering.
This rollercoaster took 3 years to complete its journey, and it has. My family is now in a very good place as of 2020, and we couldn't be more excited about what's in store.
The tears and traumatic events of years past were brutal… no doubt. There were also many incredible life lessons that I would never have learned had it not happened precisely the way it happened.
We all know the scenario of boiling a frog, where changes happen so subtly that you never make a change. Sometimes life needs to give you a direct slap to shock you awake. And even then, I white-knuckled for another 18 months trying to force a solution.
So with all that, I will never forget what happened, but I'm ready to write the next chapter of my life with my wife and kiddo. I have a feeling it's going to be spectacular!
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About Rick Manelius
Quick Stats: CTO of Contact Mapping. Author of Winning the Lottery Within. Graduated from MIT in '03 (BS) and '09 (PhD). Life hacker and peak performance enthusiast. This blog is my experiment in creative writing, self-expression, and sharing what I've learned along my journey. For more information, read my full bio here or contact me.