Be Impeccable With Your Word: Day 3

Published on March 24th, 2011

This is part of an ongoing series of articles/posts detailing my experience with experiencing The Four Agreements. If the content below doesn't make any sense out of context, then be sure to check out the original post to better understand my goals and motivations for doing this.

Words by Omission

I'm learning that being impeccable with one's words has many facets. First there is clearly the spoken word; what is audibly said to those around you. Then there is the internal part; that which is thought in one's head, particularly about oneself but also about others. Unspoken words can spread just as much poison as they can fester in one's psyche, creating myths and illusions far worse that those spoken.

Then there is also omission... which is to not speak a truth when it needs to be said. I'm learning that this can also be a powerful way that we often fall short upon. In my sometimes petty ways to get even for an alleged 'wrong' (as perceived by the inner victim archtype that we all share), I definitely omit words of truth. This can be just as bad as spreading poison, as words not said can hurt just as much.

On a very positive note, today was very negative. Yes, a contradiction, but sometimes great things can be born from mistakes. After a less than pleasant confrontation with a loved one (both having had bad days), I decided to go for a walk and ponder how I could be more impeccable with my words, my thoughts, etc. About half way in, I felt this tremendous sense of groundedness come about me. I haven't felt this relaxed in several months. It is as if I had to go through some experiences of NOT being or living that agreement... and in doing so, it has given me the contrast necessary to notice when I need to go for a walk and really re-focus.

Thus far, this journey has been a blessing; event if I have to look at some things about myself that I would rather not admit to.

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